Sometimes I need to take my own advice.
Earlier this week I was getting ready to go to the gym to get a quick workout in. I invited a friend to work out with me and their reply was, “I’m not really in the workout mood.”
My reply to that?
“You know the difference between winners and other people? When winners don’t feel like it or aren’t in the mood…
…They do it anyway.”
So as I sat on the floor tonight, feeling overwhelmed with all the things that needed to be done, …
I just continued to sit there.
I didn’t feel like doing anything. Except complain. That seemed to be the priority at the moment. Complain about all the stuff that needs to be done. Very productive. Does that ever happen to you? Sound familiar?
I actually contemplated calling a friend to complain. Because that would be even more productive. And although there is a time and a place to reach out to our friends and I believe in reaching out sometimes, even if it is just to complain and get shit out, this was not one of those times.
This was a time to do it anyway.
I ended up texting a friend and asked, “Why don’t you ever get overwhelmed? I get overwhelmed and I’m overwhelmed. I just want to cry.”
“I know that a good cry is extremely useful sometimes, but I do 500 pull-ups instead!”
I needed that. And needed the slap to snap out of it. I was overwhelmed. But who cares! I needed to do it anyway.
You don’t want to unpack that box? Do it anyway. You don’t want to unpack and pack your kids’ lunch? Do it anyway. You don’t want to sit down and tackle some computer work? Do it anyway.
And while you’re at it, stop talking about not wanting to do it. Like my sister and I like to tell each other in these moments, “SHUT UP AND DO IT.”
Now, if you read my blog, you know I’m all about self-love and talking nicely to ourselves. But to me, this is talking nicely to myself. Because I don’t want to not do things because I don’t FEEL like it. I’d rather give myself a little “hey shut up and do it anyway” than sit and wallow in the garbage of getting nothing done.
We waste so much time and energy complaining or relishing in the FEELINGS of not wanting to do something that we exhaust ourselves even more.
In my opinion and what works for me when I get in those moments, is to try to take as much feeling out of it, give myself one nice little compassionate talk, and then a little slap of tough love talk.
Something like, “I know, I know. It must be hard having a lot on your plate at this moment, but it will all start to slow down and go back to somewhat normal soon. You just moved, things are a bit hectic right now, it doesn’t all have to be done right at this moment and you’re doing great.”
“Now, stop your whining ass because it does nothing and accomplishes jack. It’s just stuff to do, so do it. You don’t have to FEEL like it. You just have to DO IT. Go do it. Like now.”
So this is my tiny declaration and motivation to myself to finish this post and shut up and go get that shit done (even though I don’t FEEL like doing it But I’m going to do it anyway.
Can you relate?